Why are so many ex girlfriends baffled by trying to get him back when thousands of other girls in the same situation seem to manage with little or no trouble at all? The short answer is, it comes down to two little things and, as we’ll see, fundamentally, just ONE little thing.
The first one is simply human response. Whenever you are confronted by a big emotional problem there are three possible responses, take flight and run away from the problem, stand and tackle it head on or freeze and do nothing. Or, in simple terms, you’re dealing with fear. Everyone is different and everyone’s particular fear will be different as well, it might be fear of rejection or the fear of making your breakup truly irreparable, it might be the fear of never finding someone else that you can feel the same way about as you feel for your ex boyfriend. And, a multitude of other possibilities. The very human response of fear can spur you into action or root you to the spot.
It’s an emotional problem and we don’t like being hurt emotionally, it’s the worst kind of pain. You can’t just take a few painkillers to make it go away.
The second one is knowledge. With the right knowledge you KNOW what to do and how to do it. It changes your fear responses because knowing how to handle your situation with certainty prevents you from freezing and gives you an alternative to running away from it. In other words, knowledge helps you to take a stand and deal with your problems head on...
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